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Found this on facebook Handfasting. Opinions please.

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Califer wrote:
Found this on facebook Handfasting. Opinions please.



Hi Califer,

Have you been asked to do a handfasting ceremony?


Sat May 07, 2016 1:46 am
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An intersting facebook page. I will keep looking in on it.


Sat May 07, 2016 10:06 am
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Over here in the US,
non-Christian couples do handfastings as their wedding ceremony.
Some write their own vows,

and it ends with the physical handfasting,
after
they exchange the vows and the rings,
and everyone has read or sang or done whatever.
We also do the Unity Candle ceremony, which is really pretty.

The hands are tied left and right together, so when the couple turns towards the people they turn with their hands tied together.

It's (the handfasting) the very last step before the official declaration at the end, that the couple is married.
Ceremonies here end with:
"by the power vested in me by the State of .... I pronounce you husband and wife."
The the couple turns towards the people in the service,
and the officiant says:
"I now give you Mr and Mrs Michael and Kathy Rivers," or whatever the couple's name is.
And then everyone claps!


The officiant fills in and signs the wedding certificate.
This constitutes a legal and binding marriage contract.
In the US the State gives the minister/officiant to "power to marry people".

But handfasting can also be part of a Christian wedding ceremony,
especially in the Anglican/Episcopalian church, they have that in the ceremony.
Very pretty.
It's done after they exchange the rings.

Also, couples do handfasting when they get engaged, and the wedding is planned for a year and a day after the handfasting.

My daughter and her boyfriend want to do this.
The want to do an engagement handfasting, with a family and friends dinner to celebrate the engagement.
But they are waiting to be ready to get married a year and a day later.

In the UK,
the couple would have to get married at the legal registry first, to get the official marriage set up,
THEN have the handfasting wedding with friends and family on a different day.
Could be the day after.

In Latin America, the clergy, nor ULC ministers, have the power to marry people.
Couples have to go to the legal registry, get officially married there, before a judge.
Then have the religious or pagan ceremony later, with friends and family.

The preparations for the weddings are the same:
white dress
tuxedos,
flowers,
maids of honor,
flower girl,
Unity candle,
people reading poems or Bible verses,
music, singing,
a meal/party after the wedding
presents

But it gives non-Christian people an option to have a big expensive wedding with friends and family, which they cannot have if they just go to the legal registry with the judge.


Sat May 07, 2016 3:36 pm
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nice site,but unless the officiants are registered and authorized to conduct marriages(i can see the c.o.e having a cow over this),it isn't legal in the uk(i should say england,not sure about the rest of the uk).

lannah,i have done one as a commitment ceremony,and others have expressed having one,minus the deities and such.strictly non religious.


Sat May 07, 2016 7:19 pm
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In the UK,
couples would have to do what couples do in Latin America,

the couple would have to get married at the legal registry first, to get the official marriage set up,

THEN have the handfasting wedding with friends and family on a different day.
Could be the day after.

In Latin America,
the clergy, nor ULC ministers, have the power to marry people.

Couples go to the legal registry, get officially married with a judge.
Then have the religious or pagan ceremony later, with friends and family.


Sat May 07, 2016 7:43 pm
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Malcolm and I have been talking about getting married.
If
(or "when" I should say) we do, we'll get married twice.
Once here in the US, with my family. Unfortunately we cannot afford to fly everyone to the UK.

Then again in the UK, with Malcolm's family and my friends in the UK.

I do not know when this would take place, but we are slowly, at the pace of an arthritic snail, moving towards this.

Where do you all live in relation to Stowmarket?
Would it be too far for you all to travel?


Sat May 14, 2016 9:03 pm
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Something can be arranged.

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Zen Dog wrote:
Something can be arranged.



Good to know! :grin:


Mon May 16, 2016 7:29 am
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Where are you, Califer? :huh:
Miss you! :sob:


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